Faith and family
Come to know each other’s character, through the people who know you both
Mutually is an invite-only way to be introduced by someone who knows you both, and it sits naturally with values many Bahá’ís hold: two people who choose each other freely, come to know each other’s character, and keep their families close. It’s open to everyone.
Chosen freely, and known well
For many Bahá’ís, a marriage begins with two people who choose each other freely, and who take the time to know each other’s character before they decide. Introductions often come through friends and family, from someone who has seen how each person lives. Mutually keeps that shape. Nobody browses anyone, and there’s no public profile to polish: the people who know you describe your character as they’ve seen it, and an introduction is only suggested by someone who knows you both. The equality of women and men, and unity across race, culture and nationality, are well-known Bahá’í principles, and they sit easily with how Mutually works. Both people go through the same steps, each decides privately, and introductions aren’t tied to any one place.
Your circle describes you
Three to ten friends and family describe your character from a private link. No app, no account, and each chooses who may see their words.
Someone who knows you both
An introduction is only made when a person who knows you both is willing to suggest it. Most ideas stop there, and that’s the point.
Where both families matter
For many Bahá’í families, the two people choose first, and then their parents’ consent matters a great deal, because a marriage brings two families together as well as two people. Many families reach decisions like these through consultation, talking them through openly and together. Mutually respects all of that and stays out of it: it makes introductions, and it has no say in anyone’s marriage. What it offers families is a part at the beginning. Parents, siblings, cousins and family friends can be in your circle, describing who you are, and a parent can be a Connector if you invite them. Over whom you meet, they offer insight, never a veto. You always choose. Whatever follows is for the two of you and your families, not for Mutually.
Privacy, modesty and consent
For many Bahá’ís, chastity and discretion matter while two people get to know each other. Nothing here is on display, every answer is private, and you can take things at the pace that feels right to you both.
No public profile
No feed, no browsing, no directory. Nobody can look you up.
Photos stay inside an introduction
Photos are only ever seen inside an introduction, never on display.
Each answer is private
You each decide privately. Neither sees the other’s answer until it’s mutual.
One introduction at a time
Focus mode pauses new introductions while you get to know someone.
What Mutually is not
Mutually isn’t a Bahá’í service, and it doesn’t replace your family, your friends or anyone who already introduces people they care about. It sits alongside them. There’s no browsing, no feed, and no scores or ratings. We don’t ask about ethnicity or nationality, and we never introduce anyone on them. Mutually is open to adults of every faith and none, on the same terms, whether you’ve been married before or not, whether or not you have children, and whether you grew up with your faith or came to it later. If your faith matters to you, it can matter here, privately.
What it costs
Free while we grow. Later, a simple membership for active Seekers, the people looking for an introduction. Connectors, and the family and friends who describe or vouch for someone, never pay. Nobody can pay to be seen.
Questions
As large a part as you’d like at the beginning. Parents can be in your circle, describing your character from a private link with no app or account, and a parent can be a Connector if you invite them. Over whom you meet, they offer insight, never a veto: the two of you choose. Anything to do with a marriage, including your parents’ consent, lies outside Mutually: it makes introductions and has no part in what follows.
By starting with people who have seen it. Three to ten friends and family describe each of you in their own words, and each of them chooses who may see what they wrote. The introduction is suggested by someone who knows you both. After that it’s the two of you: you pick how to meet, and Focus mode pauses new introductions so your attention stays with one person while you get to know each other.
Yes. Nothing about you is public, and photos are only ever seen inside an introduction. Each of you answers privately, and neither sees the other’s answer until it’s mutual. How you spend time together is for the two of you to decide, by your own standards, and you can pause Mutually whenever you need to.
Yes. Introductions aren’t tied to one place: you tell us whether you’d prefer someone nearby, are open to someone elsewhere, or would consider moving. We never ask about ethnicity or nationality, and never introduce anyone on them. Faith is your choice too. What you tell us about it is optional, needs your consent and is never shown to anyone. If sharing a faith matters to you, say so, and it counts only when the other person has asked for the same. If you’re open to someone of another faith or none, that’s respected just the same.
No. Mutually is open to adults of every faith and none, on the same terms. This page describes how it sits alongside values many Bahá’ís hold: a free choice between two people, real knowledge of each other’s character, and families brought closer together.
No. There’s no public profile and nothing to browse, so nobody can look you up. The friends and family you invite to describe you will know you’re here, as will a Connector who suggests an introduction for you. Photos are only ever seen inside an introduction.
Free while we grow. Later, a simple membership for active Seekers, the people looking for an introduction. Connectors, and the family and friends who describe or vouch for someone, never pay. Nobody can pay to be seen.
If this is how you’d hope to meet someone
Mutually is invite-only. Join the list and we’ll write when there’s room, and not before. The fastest way in is still a friend who’s already here.