Faith and family
Introductions with marriage in mind, rooted in Muslim values
For many Muslim families, the way to marriage begins with an introduction from someone trusted, with family close by. Mutually is an invite-only way to be introduced like that, by a person who knows you both, with nothing about you on display.
A trusted introduction, then time to know each other
For many Muslim families, two people meet because someone trusted on both sides thinks they should: a parent, an aunt or uncle, a family friend, someone whose judgement both families respect. Some families call it a rishta (an introduction made with care). Others speak of ta’aruf, getting to know one another with marriage in mind. Customs differ from one family to the next, and Mutually doesn’t take the place of any of them. It works in the same spirit. Three to ten people who know you describe your character in their own words, and an introduction is only suggested when someone who knows you both is willing to make it. What you each hope for comes first when we look, so if you hope for marriage, that’s where we start.
Your circle describes you
Three to ten friends and family describe your character from a private link. No app, no account, and each chooses who may see their words.
Someone who knows you both
An introduction is only made when a person who knows you both is willing to suggest it. Most ideas stop there, and that’s the point.
A parent or guardian can be part of it
For many families, a parent or guardian is part of the process from the beginning, and nothing about Mutually asks you to leave them out. A mother or father, a brother or sister, an uncle or aunt, or whoever plays that part in your family can be in your circle, describing who you are from a private link, with no app and no account. Any of them can be a Connector too, if you invite them, and may be asked about an introduction to someone they also know. In your conversation with us, you can say the part you’d like your family to play. When an introduction goes ahead, the two of you choose how to meet, so if you’d both like family to be there, you can arrange exactly that. On Mutually, family brings insight, never a veto, over whom you’re introduced to. Whose blessing you seek after that is for you and your families.
Privacy, modesty and consent
For many people, modesty and discretion are part of getting to know someone well. Nothing about you is on display here, and an introduction that doesn’t go ahead closes quietly, with nobody told who said no. If your faith matters to you, you can tell us privately: it needs your consent, only Mutually sees it, and you can remove it any time.
No public profile
No feed, no browsing, no directory. Nobody can look you up.
Photos stay inside an introduction
Photos are only ever seen inside an introduction, never on display.
Each answer is private
You each decide privately. Neither sees the other’s answer until it’s mutual.
One introduction at a time
Focus mode pauses new introductions while you get to know someone.
What Mutually is not
Mutually isn’t a Muslim marriage service or a matrimonial site, and it doesn’t replace your family or anyone who already introduces people they care about. It sits alongside them. There’s nothing to browse, and no scores or ratings. We don’t ask about ethnicity or nationality, and we never introduce anyone on them. Mutually is open to adults of every faith and none, on the same terms, whether or not you’ve been married before and whether or not you have children. If your faith matters to you, it can matter here, privately.
What it costs
Free while we grow. Later, a simple membership for active Seekers, the people looking for an introduction. Connectors, and the family and friends who describe or vouch for someone, never pay. Nobody can pay to be seen.
Questions
In the ways you choose. A parent, a brother or sister, an uncle or aunt, or a family friend can be in your circle and describe your character from a private link. Any of them can also be a Connector if you invite them: someone who may be asked whether, knowing you both, they’d make a particular introduction. They offer insight, never a veto, over whom you meet.
Only if you tell them, or if one of them is the Connector who suggested it. Mutually doesn’t share an introduction with your circle. The Connector who made it knows it was proposed, and never learns who said what. If you’d like your family to know from the very start, that’s yours to do, in your own way.
Only someone you’re introduced to, inside that introduction. You add between one and three photos of your choosing. There’s no public profile and nothing to browse, so they’re never on display, and the people in your circle don’t see them either.
Yes, if that’s what you both would like. When an introduction is mutual, the two of you choose how to meet, and you can arrange it yourselves. Who comes along, where you meet and how quickly things move are yours to agree together. Mutually doesn’t set any of that for you.
Yes, on exactly the same terms as everyone else. Your circle describes the person you are today, and how much of your story you share, and when, is up to you.
No. There’s no public profile and nothing to browse, so nobody can look you up. The friends and family you invite to describe you will know you’re here, as will a Connector who suggests an introduction for you. Photos are only ever seen inside an introduction.
Free while we grow. Later, a simple membership for active Seekers, the people looking for an introduction. Connectors, and the family and friends who describe or vouch for someone, never pay. Nobody can pay to be seen.
If this is how you’d hope to meet someone
Mutually is invite-only. Join the list and we’ll write when there’s room, and not before. The fastest way in is still a friend who’s already here.