Faith and family
Introduced by people who know you. Chosen by the two of you, as equals.
Mutually is an invite-only way to meet someone through the family and friends who know you, and it sits comfortably alongside Sikh values of equality, honest living and seva, selfless service. Family can be part of it, the decision belongs to the two of you, and it’s open to everyone.
A rishta, through people who know you
For many Sikh families, a rishta (an introduction made with care) comes through relatives, family friends or someone trusted on both sides, and then the two people get to know each other and decide for themselves. Mutually follows the same shape. There’s no biodata (the marriage résumé some families exchange) to send round, no public profile and nothing to scroll through. Three to ten people who know you describe your character as they know it, in their own words, and an introduction is only made when someone who knows you both is willing to suggest it. They give their time freely, out of care for you.
Your circle describes you
Three to ten friends and family describe your character from a private link. No app, no account, and each chooses who may see their words.
Someone who knows you both
An introduction is only made when a person who knows you both is willing to suggest it. Most ideas stop there, and that’s the point.
Family involved, and the two of you as equals
Parents, siblings, cousins and family friends can be in your circle, describing who you are, and a parent can be a Connector if you invite them. In your conversation with us, you can say what part you’d like your families to play. The equality of every person, and of women and men, is a well-known Sikh teaching, and Mutually treats the two people in an introduction alike: both are described by people who know them, both go through the same steps, each decides privately, and neither has more say than the other. Family brings insight, never a veto. You always choose.
Privacy, modesty and consent
For many families, it matters that a rishta stays private until both people are sure. On Mutually, nothing is public, and each answer stays private.
No public profile
No feed, no browsing, no directory. Nobody can look you up.
Photos stay inside an introduction
Photos are only ever seen inside an introduction, never on display.
Each answer is private
You each decide privately. Neither sees the other’s answer until it’s mutual.
One introduction at a time
Focus mode pauses new introductions while you get to know someone.
What Mutually is not
Mutually isn’t a matrimonial site or a Sikh service, and it doesn’t replace your family or the people who already introduce you. It sits alongside them. There’s nothing to browse, and no scores or ratings. We don’t ask about caste, and we never introduce anyone on it. Mutually is open to adults of every faith and none, on the same terms: if your faith matters to you, it can matter here, privately.
What it costs
Free while we grow. Later, a simple membership for active Seekers, the people looking for an introduction. Connectors, and the family and friends who describe or vouch for someone, never pay. Nobody can pay to be seen.
Questions
Yes, in the ways you choose. Parents, siblings, cousins and family friends can be in your circle, each describing you from a private link with no app or account. A parent can also be a Connector, if you invite them, and be asked whether they’d suggest an introduction to someone they also know. Nobody in your family needs to join, and they never pay. They offer insight, never a veto.
The two of you, with exactly the same say. When an introduction is suggested, each of you answers privately, and neither sees the other’s answer unless it’s mutual. The Connector who suggested it knows it was proposed, but never learns who said what. Family can share their view. They never decide for you.
No. We don’t ask about caste, we don’t note it down if it comes up, and we never introduce anyone on it. The same is true of ethnicity and nationality. An introduction starts from who you are, as the people who know you describe it.
No. There are no listings to search and no biodata to send round, and Mutually doesn’t take the place of the relatives and friends who already look out for you. It helps them do what they have long done. We notice a possibility among the people your circle knows, someone who knows you both decides whether it’s worth suggesting, and then each of you chooses, privately.
Yes, if it matters to you. Telling us your faith is optional and needs your consent, and it’s never shown to anyone. A shared faith counts only when both people have asked for it. If you’re open to someone of another faith or none, or would rather say nothing at all, that’s respected just the same.
Yes, on exactly the same terms as everyone else, and the same goes for people who came to their faith later in life. Your circle describes who you are today, and you decide how much of your story to share, and when.
No. There’s no public profile and nothing to browse, so nobody can look you up. The friends and family you invite to describe you will know you’re here, as will a Connector who suggests an introduction for you. Photos are only ever seen inside an introduction.
Free while we grow. Later, a simple membership for active Seekers, the people looking for an introduction. Connectors, and the family and friends who describe or vouch for someone, never pay. Nobody can pay to be seen.
If this is how you’d hope to meet someone
Mutually is invite-only. Join the list and we’ll write when there’s room, and not before. The fastest way in is still a friend who’s already here.